Who decides how you look and what constitutes beauty?
When I was in Myanmar with my family last year, I couldn’t help but notice that most of the women and children had oddlooking yellow patches on their cheeks.
We reckoned that it was probably their version of the Malaysian bedak sejuk ( cooling rice powder) and it was amusing to see that even some of the men had smeared the yellow stuff on their cheeks and forehead.
Later, we found out that this was called “thanaka,” a distinctive part of Myanmarese culture dating back some 2,000 years.
The bark or root of the thanaka tree is ground into powder, which is then mixed with a measured amount of water to form a paste.
The scent reminds one of sandalwood, and it supposedly provides a cooling effect and protection from the sun.
Some even go as far as to say it thwarts acne and promotes smooth skin.
Come to think of it, I hardly saw any Myanmarese with bad skin, so there may be some truth to it for all we know.
Sometimes, the thanaka is drawn on the face in various designs such as stripes or a leaf.
Apparently, t his practice of applying thanaka has spread to Thailand as well.
Wh i le I get how this cultural practice is viewed as cosmetic by t he l ocals, I found it a little comical t hat t here was a huge billboard with a model fronting some product, with the distinctive yellow patches on her cheeks.
We all have our own perception of what’s appropriate for home use and what’s for public consumption.
And obviously, the Myanmarese thought this was perfectly acceptable and even attractive.
Bet you’ll never see any ads with pretty women sporting bedak sejuk on their faces here!
We also saw the other extreme, long-neck Padaung women wearing brass rings belonging to the indigenous Karen people. Story has it that they consider the extra-long neck a sign of great beauty and wealth, and that it will attract a better husband.
Of course, this bizarre practice is not about to take off any time soon in the modern world as most people probably don’t share their idea of beauty.
The Definition of Beauty
This got me thinking about how people view beauty: how do you define what’s acceptable and what’s not; why are some temporary fads and others considered classic mainstays?
For instance, most of us don’t think twice about getting eyelid surgery to get rid of aging eyebags.
A little nip and tuck to lift sagging skin, or a nose job to enhance your features, are seen as positive steps to boost selfconfidence and, undeniably, feed our unquenchable thirst for eternal youth.
In fact, plastic surgery has become so common that statistics in 2012 suggests that one in five women in South Korea have gone under the knife.
Most girls would have done something to their faces once they hit 19 as they don’t want to be left behind by their peers.
According to newyorker. com, remarks such as “You would be a lot prettier if you just had your jaw tapered,” are no more insulting than “You’d get a lot more for your apartment if you redid the kitchen.” Whoa! That’s mind- boggling as it makes me wonder: Where does one draw the line on what’s enough modification to our God- given features before it goes too far?
The current trend in South Korea that’s spreading to other Asian countries, including Malaysia and Singapore, calls for women to have large eyes, narrow thin noses, all contained within a small V- shaped jawline. In 2013, a picture of aspiring Korean beauty queens went viral as netizens complained that plastic surgery made them all look like clones of each other. Whi le I baulk at the how t hese girls brave through painful procedures just to conform to what society thinks is pretty, there are others who think the look is quite cool and trendy.
My friend May, for instance, felt the girls looked beautiful, and that the fad was current, different and interesting.
The latest was a case in China where a 15- year- old underwent major surgery to achieve this coveted look.
I find all this worrying because as this trend catches on over here and young women get caught up in the pursuit of superficial beauty, they will no longer recognize the value of self-worth and other positive life skills.
Aesthetics practitioner Dr. Anna Hoo made a very pertinent point when I interviewed her recently.
She said that it was important for one’s outlook and inner self to be aligned.
If someone changes her entire face just to fit the image of what other people consider beautiful, it may not be truly what she wants for herself.
And what’s worse, there’s no guarantee that one will be happy after that either.
We’re all in search of that elusive bluebird of happiness. But I reckon it’s going to take a long journey of discovery, and not just plastic surgery, to get there.