Newlyweds encounter ‘BIG problem’ that the wife just cannot handle
DEAR ANNIE: I am 30 and my wife is 27, and we are completely in love. My wife is a very spiritual woman and wanted to wait until we were married to have sex. I respected her choice and we were engaged for almost two years. No problem.
Then comes the wedding. BIG problem. We simply do not fit physically. I am more endowed than my very petite wife can handle. Our wedding night was a nightmare. Since then, we have tried to have sex many times. The results are always the same — she is physically hurt and I feel terrible.
What can we do? We have talked to doctors and they have suggested lubricants, etc., but nothing works.
— Too Much of a Good Thing
Dear Too Much: We know this makes sexual intimacy difficult and your wife’s anticipation of pain may now be a contributing factor to the problem. Have you tried different positions where she has more control over what’s going on? Also, please look into assistance through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists at aasect.org.