Lady annoyed by hubby’s lack of pinging courtesy
My husband likes to unclick his seatbelt as soon as we get out of traffic. Then the seatbelt-violation warning starts pinging, and goes on and on while we drive up our driveway or into a parking lot.
I do most of the driving. I told him once that if he wants to ride with me, then he needs to leave his seatbelt buckled until the car is parked. That worked for two trips. Months later, when he removed his seatbelt as we were exiting the interstate, I stopped the car right there and said, “I guess you need to get out now.” He chuckled, but nothing changed.
We will be driving to Alaska in a couple of months, spending five days in the car together. How am I supposed to survive this seatbelt situation? Aside from the safety issues, the pinging drives me crazy. I already asked my mechanic to disconnect the warning signal, but he said that would violate my car manufacturer’s policy. Now what?
— Alaska or Bust
Dear Alaska: The reason the pinging is so annoying is to modify the behavior of people like your husband. Since it doesn’t bother him, however, we suggest “training” him the way you would a child. It does no good for you to threaten to kick him out of the car on the side of the highway if you don’t follow through. Since you have no intention of dropping him there, it’s a hollow threat and he knows it. Instead, tell him the car won’t move until he puts his seatbelt back on. And sit there as long as you need to until he complies. The other option, of course, is for one of you to find a separate mode of transportation.
Can you tell me how to dispose of an old Bible? I have asked three ministers and they all said they did not know. I haven’t heard back.
The Bible is not valuable. It doesn’t include a family history or anything like that. It is simply worn out, the cover is missing and some of the pages are torn. It is read to pieces. I have three other Bibles and don’t need more.
One friend told me to just put it in the garbage, another said to wrap it in newspaper and tie it up before putting it in the garbage. I don’t think putting it in the garbage is right. After all, if we aren’t supposed to put our country’s flag in the garbage, then why would we do that to a Bible? It’s no less important.
Dear O.: You’ve posed an interesting question. There is no single answer for the proper disposal of a Christian Bible that is too worn to be donated. However, the general consensus is to wrap it and then bury it. While the Bible itself is not an object of worship, it should still be treated in a respectful manner. You also can ask your minister if you can bring the Bible to your church for appropriate disposal. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@ creators.com, or write to: Annie’ s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA, USA.