Lady an­noyed by hubby’s lack of ping­ing cour­tesy

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My hus­band likes to unclick his seat­belt as soon as we get out of traf­fic. Then the seat­belt-vi­o­la­tion warn­ing starts ping­ing, and goes on and on while we drive up our drive­way or into a park­ing lot.

I do most of the driv­ing. I told him once that if he wants to ride with me, then he needs to leave his seat­belt buck­led un­til the car is parked. That worked for two trips. Months later, when he re­moved his seat­belt as we were ex­it­ing the in­ter­state, I stopped the car right there and said, “I guess you need to get out now.” He chuck­led, but noth­ing changed.

We will be driv­ing to Alaska in a cou­ple of months, spend­ing five days in the car to­gether. How am I sup­posed to sur­vive this seat­belt sit­u­a­tion? Aside from the safety is­sues, the ping­ing drives me crazy. I al­ready asked my me­chanic to dis­con­nect the warn­ing sig­nal, but he said that would vi­o­late my car man­u­fac­turer’s pol­icy. Now what?

— Alaska or Bust

Dear Alaska: The rea­son the ping­ing is so an­noy­ing is to mod­ify the be­hav­ior of peo­ple like your hus­band. Since it doesn’t bother him, how­ever, we sug­gest “train­ing” him the way you would a child. It does no good for you to threaten to kick him out of the car on the side of the high­way if you don’t fol­low through. Since you have no in­ten­tion of drop­ping him there, it’s a hol­low threat and he knows it. In­stead, tell him the car won’t move un­til he puts his seat­belt back on. And sit there as long as you need to un­til he com­plies. The other op­tion, of course, is for one of you to find a sep­a­rate mode of trans­porta­tion.

Can you tell me how to dis­pose of an old Bi­ble? I have asked three min­is­ters and they all said they did not know. I haven’t heard back.

The Bi­ble is not valu­able. It doesn’t in­clude a fam­ily history or any­thing like that. It is sim­ply worn out, the cover is miss­ing and some of the pages are torn. It is read to pieces. I have three other Bi­bles and don’t need more.

One friend told me to just put it in the garbage, another said to wrap it in news­pa­per and tie it up be­fore putting it in the garbage. I don’t think putting it in the garbage is right. Af­ter all, if we aren’t sup­posed to put our coun­try’s flag in the garbage, then why would we do that to a Bi­ble? It’s no less im­por­tant.

— O.

Dear O.: You’ve posed an in­ter­est­ing ques­tion. There is no sin­gle an­swer for the proper dis­posal of a Chris­tian Bi­ble that is too worn to be do­nated. How­ever, the gen­eral con­sen­sus is to wrap it and then bury it. While the Bi­ble it­self is not an ob­ject of wor­ship, it should still be treated in a re­spect­ful man­ner. You also can ask your min­is­ter if you can bring the Bi­ble to your church for ap­pro­pri­ate dis­posal. An­nie’s Mail­box is writ­ten by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, long­time ed­i­tors of the Ann Lan­ders col­umn. Please email your ques­tions to an­nies­mail­box@ cre­ators.com, or write to: An­nie’ s Mail­box, c/o Cre­ators Syn­di­cate, 737 3rd Street, Her­mosa Beach, CA, USA.

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