Lady is un­sure how to keep loud friend away from visi­tors

The China Post - - TV & COMICS -

DEAR AN­NIE: My hus­band and I are friends with another cou­ple in our neigh­bor­hood. The ma­jor­ity of the time, we get along well. We have even trav­eled to­gether.

The prob­lem is, “Susie” is very loud and an ex­tremely poor con­ver­sa­tion­al­ist. She dom­i­nates the get-to­geth­ers by talk­ing about non­sense, and she con­stantly re­peats her­self. She in­ter­rupts ev­ery­one’s con­ver­sa­tions with, “Oh, I’ve done that,” and off she goes about her­self. Susie’s hus­band doesn’t seem both­ered by this, but it drives me nuts. My hus­band also doesn’t like it.

We have out-of-town fam­ily vis­it­ing soon and these neigh­bors have in­vited them­selves over. How do I tell them they aren’t welcome be­cause we don’t want them to have to tol­er­ate Susie’s bad be­hav­ior? I see my fam­ily in­fre­quently and we don’t want to be un­com­fort­able with the rel­a­tives in our own home.

— Frus­trated Friend­ship

Dear Frus­trated: There is noth­ing wrong with telling Susie and her hus­band that you want to spend some pri­vate time with your fam­ily. Should they drop by un­in­vited, you can in­tro­duce them and let them say hello, but then nicely usher them out, telling Susie that you will visit with them when you are less oc­cu­pied with fam­ily mem­bers. But please don’t as­sume that your rel­a­tives will find Susie as an­noy­ing as you do. For a brief visit, she could be per­fectly tol­er­a­ble. The trick is to keep it ex­tremely short.

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