HANG IN THERE?

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Think­ing of throw­ing in the towel? Here’s how to make the right de­ci­sion:

Be hon­est “Ask your­self if you’re re­ally giv­ing up on some­thing be­cause you want to be­gin a new stage in your life, or if it’s more about run­ning away from a dif­fi­cult sit­u­a­tion that should be faced,” ad­vises Dr Tara Wyne of The Light­House Ara­bia. “Know­ing your­self is key.”

Keep a di­ary Record both the good and the bad as­pects of a sit­u­a­tion over a pe­riod of time be­fore you make a fi­nal de­ci­sion. It helps keep things in per­spec­tive by pro­vid­ing an ac­cu­rate in-the-mo­ment ac­count of what’s hap­pen­ing.

Weigh it up “Do a hap­pi­ness per­cent­age check. If you feel un­happy for more than 70 per cent of the time – and you can’t see a way to rec­tify the sit­u­a­tion – it’s fairly ob­vi­ous things have to change,” says psy­chother­a­pist Dr An­drew Reeves.

Plan your move Don’t quit in the heat of the mo­ment – take your time to en­sure that you have a clear and re­al­is­tic strat­egy for mov­ing for­ward. It will help im­mea­sur­ably to have a struc­tured plan in place, es­pe­cially dur­ing wob­bly mo­ments.

Be pos­i­tive A study car­ried out by North­west­ern Univer­sity in Chicago found that chang­ing your mind­set from fo­cus­ing on what you might lose to what you might gain through walk­ing away is ex­tremely mo­ti­vat­ing, and makes the process seem far more man­age­able.

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