Friday - - Wellbeing -

Wor­ry­ing is the big­gest rea­son why people strug­gle to be happy. Life coach Mal­min­der Gill, who does in­ter­na­tional tele­phone con­sul­ta­tions (www.the-coachin­ga­ gives us her top tips on how to stop wor­ry­ing about ev­ery­thing!

Bot­tling up your wor­ries and hop­ing they’ll go away doesn’t work. Take a pos­i­tive first step in solv­ing the prob­lem by first ac­knowl­edg­ing your con­cerns.

Don’t spend hours dwelling on your fears. Write down what’s wor­ry­ing you, talk to a friend, fam­ily mem­ber, doc­tor, or a coach. Get it out of your head.

It’s easy to can­cel on friends and fam­ily or to stay home be­cause you’re bogged down with wor­ries. But be­ing iso­lated makes things worse. Com­mit to your weekly sched­ule. A change of scene will go a long way in shift­ing your wor­ries.

When we worry, we over ex­am­ine the worst-case sce­nario of a sit­u­a­tion. It won’t change any­thing. Make a list of the pos­i­tive things that could hap­pen and imag­ine how your life would be if these pos­i­tive things took place.

Don’t fo­cus on the past. Wor­ry­ing about things that hap­pened yes­ter­day won’t change any­thing. Ask yourself what im­pact does the past event have on your life? Will it re­ally af­fect you in 20 years?

If you are try­ing to con­trol other people’s lives you will also prob­a­bly be in a con­tin­ual state of worry. Fo­cus on yourself. Think about what your pur­pose is in life. Ex­pand your hori­zons and take up hob­bies and in­ter­ests that make you happy.

If you’re in the habit of ex­pect­ing the worst, then you prob­a­bly are get­ting the worst. Take a more bal­anced ap­proach and be hope­ful!

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