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In plain English You’ll never love any­one quite like that sticky-fin­gered, mop-haired 12-year-old who broke your heart when he stood you up to play hide-and-seek with his friends. Ori­gins Un­known but thought to come from Italy. It might be true Few would say their first love doesn’t hold a spe­cial place in their heart. Some 60 per cent of us ad­mit we still think about them and 33 per cent reckon they’d at­tempt a re­u­nion if they could, ac­cord­ing to a 2009 study by the In­sti­tute for So­cial and Eco­nomic Re­search at the Uni­ver­sity of Es­sex in the UK. It might not be You were young, you were hor­monal, you were experiencing the en­tire world and its in­fi­nite pos­si­bil­i­ties for the first time. So of course a first love still feels spe­cial now you’re old, jaded and have long since thrown away those pos­si­bil­i­ties. Yet to think you had a greater con­nec­tion with that girl or boy than any­one else you’ve met since is a danger­ous illusion, says Dr Mal­colm Brynin, who led the above-quoted study.

“If you start think­ing about your first love in those terms,” ad­vises Fadwa Lko­rchy, de­vel­op­men­tal psy­chol­o­gist at Dubai Com­mu­nity Health Cen­tre in Oud Metha, “it’s prob­a­bly a sign you’re stuck in a rut. I would’nt ad­vise get­ting back in touch be­cause they will have moved on and are no longer the same per­son you knew back then.” The ver­dict Prob­a­bly lit­er­a­ture’s most fa­mous man who wouldn’t for­get a first love was Hum­bert Hum­bert in Lolita. No-one wants to end up like that. Best to move on.

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