THERE ISNOLOVE LIKE YOURFIRST LOVE
In plain English You’ll never love anyone quite like that sticky-fingered, mop-haired 12-year-old who broke your heart when he stood you up to play hide-and-seek with his friends. Origins Unknown but thought to come from Italy. It might be true Few would say their first love doesn’t hold a special place in their heart. Some 60 per cent of us admit we still think about them and 33 per cent reckon they’d attempt a reunion if they could, according to a 2009 study by the Institute for Social and Economic Research at the University of Essex in the UK. It might not be You were young, you were hormonal, you were experiencing the entire world and its infinite possibilities for the first time. So of course a first love still feels special now you’re old, jaded and have long since thrown away those possibilities. Yet to think you had a greater connection with that girl or boy than anyone else you’ve met since is a dangerous illusion, says Dr Malcolm Brynin, who led the above-quoted study.
“If you start thinking about your first love in those terms,” advises Fadwa Lkorchy, developmental psychologist at Dubai Community Health Centre in Oud Metha, “it’s probably a sign you’re stuck in a rut. I would’nt advise getting back in touch because they will have moved on and are no longer the same person you knew back then.” The verdict Probably literature’s most famous man who wouldn’t forget a first love was Humbert Humbert in Lolita. No-one wants to end up like that. Best to move on.