PLEASED TO PLEASE YOU

Friday - - Editor’s Letter -

Meet me for the first time and you might leave think­ing you’ve just had an en­counter with a lion. Loud, out­spo­ken, con­fi­dent and forth­right are just some of the words you might as­so­ciate with me – if you don’t know me very well. Come a bit closer and you’ll hope­fully add kind, gen­er­ous, loyal and funny to that list. Be­come a best friend and you’ll de­clare that I have the dis­ease to please.

Far from be­ing a lion, I’m a fluffy dog who al­ways wants to make her owner(s) happy. My chil­dren own the TV re­mote con­trol, my hus­band our di­ary, while I’m never re­ally off duty from work. Thanks to tech­nol­ogy, I’m easily reach­able and take busi­ness calls in the bath, by the pool, on the beach, up a moun­tain on hol­i­day or even while I’m asleep (those pesky time dif­fer­ences!).

I’m at the beck and call of friends and fam­ily who want to Skype con­tin­u­ously and still get bossed around by my mother even though she’s 3,500 miles away. Why? Be­cause, ac­cord­ing to the ex­perts, like most women (and es­pe­cially moth­ers) I don’t want to up­set any­one or face rejection, so I put ev­ery­one else’s needs and wants be­fore my own.

But it could be bad for my health, be­cause hav­ing the dis­ease to please can leave suf­fer­ers ex­hausted and stressed. Burnout is even pos­si­ble. The cure? Learn­ing to say no oc­ca­sion­ally, ac­cord­ing to the fas­ci­nat­ing fea­ture on page 46. I’m go­ing to start prac­tis­ing – you should too – so let’s see how we get on! Un­til next week,

I’m like a FLUFFY DOG who wants to make her owner HAPPY. My kids own the TV re­mote, and I’m never off DUTY, tak­ing busi­ness calls in the bath

Karen Pasquali Jones, Editor kpasqual­i­jones@gulfnews.com

Talk­ing of fluffy dogs, take a look at these gor­geous (and stylish) pooches in our fash­ion fea­ture on page 52

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