PLEASED TO PLEASE YOU
Meet me for the first time and you might leave thinking you’ve just had an encounter with a lion. Loud, outspoken, confident and forthright are just some of the words you might associate with me – if you don’t know me very well. Come a bit closer and you’ll hopefully add kind, generous, loyal and funny to that list. Become a best friend and you’ll declare that I have the disease to please.
Far from being a lion, I’m a fluffy dog who always wants to make her owner(s) happy. My children own the TV remote control, my husband our diary, while I’m never really off duty from work. Thanks to technology, I’m easily reachable and take business calls in the bath, by the pool, on the beach, up a mountain on holiday or even while I’m asleep (those pesky time differences!).
I’m at the beck and call of friends and family who want to Skype continuously and still get bossed around by my mother even though she’s 3,500 miles away. Why? Because, according to the experts, like most women (and especially mothers) I don’t want to upset anyone or face rejection, so I put everyone else’s needs and wants before my own.
But it could be bad for my health, because having the disease to please can leave sufferers exhausted and stressed. Burnout is even possible. The cure? Learning to say no occasionally, according to the fascinating feature on page 46. I’m going to start practising – you should too – so let’s see how we get on! Until next week,
I’m like a FLUFFY DOG who wants to make her owner HAPPY. My kids own the TV remote, and I’m never off DUTY, taking business calls in the bath
Karen Pasquali Jones, Editor email@example.com
Talking of fluffy dogs, take a look at these gorgeous (and stylish) pooches in our fashion feature on page 52