IN THE MO­MENT

Friday - - Editor’s Letter -

What is par­ent­ing, I won­der. The dic­tio­nary says it is the act of be­ing a par­ent to. If that is what it is, then Daljin­der Kaur and Mo­hin­der Singh Gill fit the sten­cil. Af­ter hop­ing for a mir­a­cle to hap­pen for the best part of their lives, this cou­ple fi­nally be­came par­ents for the first time re­cently... at the grand old age of 70 and some.

The doctors in­volved in the process are ec­static for the sake of the ad­vance­ment that med­i­cal sci­ence has made. And they should be. Af­ter all, they were able to turn the bi­o­log­i­cal clock back for Daljin­der and en­sure that she had a smooth preg­nancy and a C-sec­tion de­liv­ery.

But, while read­ing the story on page 20, I could not but feel for the lit­tle one and the fu­ture that awaits him. Would the new­born ever get a chance to sit on his fa­ther’s strong shoul­ders and see the world or have the old man run­ning af­ter him when he wob­bles on a bi­cy­cle? Would his mother have the strength to carry him to his cot when he would fall asleep in her lap?

Self­ish, I thought they all were – the doctors and the new par­ents – for they could not think be­yond their own mo­tives.

Then, I be­gan to won­der again. Can any of us fu­ture-proof our lives? En­sure that any po­ten­tial grief, pain, loss or fail­ure does not leave an in­deli­ble scar on our hearts and minds, or even pre­dict how our lives will play out the next mo­ment?

Since the an­swer is most def­i­nitely no, I sup­pose we can­not judge the sep­tu­a­ge­nar­ian cou­ple, but only hope that they are able to en­joy their new re­spon­si­bil­i­ties. Chang­ing nap­pies, get­ting baby Ar­maan to burp af­ter ev­ery meal and putting him to sleep can all be very ex­haust­ing for a par­ent, how­ever old they are.

Can any of us FU­TURE-PROOF our lives? En­sure that any GRIEF, pain, loss or FAIL­URE does not leave an in­deli­ble SCAR on our hearts and minds, or even PRE­DICT how LIFE will play out the next mo­ment?

Mri­nal Shekar Deputy Edi­tor mshekar@gulfnews.com

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