THE HAPPY CHOICE

Friday - - Editor’s Letter - Mri­nal Shekar Deputy Ed­i­tor mshekar@gulfnews.com

Who­ever said hap­pi­ness is a state of mind, I’d say was un­fair. I be­lieve hap­pi­ness is a choice – a con­scious de­ci­sion to stay fo­cused on all those val­ues, re­la­tion­ships and ac­tiv­i­ties that fill your heart and mind with unadul­ter­ated joy. To me, once you choose to be happy and de­cide to pur­sue all those pri­or­i­ties that fill you with con­tent­ment, you cre­ate a blueprint for a life free of re­grets, sad­ness and a cor­ro­sive sense of cyn­i­cism.

If you are one to be­lieve my per­cep­tion of hap­pi­ness is he­do­nis­tic and rep­re­sents a self-ab­sorbed per­spec­tive of life, then to you I say, only when your heart is filled with hap­pi­ness would it spill over to seep into the lives of those you come in con­tact with, en­rich­ing and in­spir­ing them. Else, it’ll re­main a sponge – and a needy one at that – al­ways seek­ing, ex­pect­ing and de­pen­dent on oth­ers for emo­tional sal­va­tion.

Once you CHOOSE to be happy and de­cide to PUR­SUE all the pri­or­i­ties that fill you with CON­TENT­MENT, you cre­ate a BLUEPRINT for a life FREE of re­grets, SAD­NESS and a cor­ro­sive sense of CYN­I­CISM

Com­ing back to why the adage, hap­pi­ness is a state of mind, is un­fair. For, who­ever said so cre­ated two sets of peo­ple – one that’s blessed with a happy state of mind, to whom stay­ing pos­i­tive is a de­fault at­ti­tude, and an­other striv­ing to be a part of that ex­clu­sive club.

You could also say that achiev­ing hap­pi­ness by just cre­at­ing a blueprint is eas­ier said than done. But I be­lieve it is the first – and most vi­tal – step to­wards that goal. Once you read the fea­ture ‘Are you strug­gling with re­grets?’ on page 30, you too will agree that re­grets take over our lives when we stray from all those pri­or­i­ties that are in­stru­men­tal to our emo­tional well-be­ing. So, go ahead and make a what-makes-mehappy list and start work­ing on it. And if you are racked with re­gret for hav­ing wan­dered off the list, then it is never too late to get back to the draw­ing board and make amends.

Let me know what you think,

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