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Friday - - Editor’s Letter - Mri­nal Shekar Deputy Ed­i­tor mshekar@gulfnews.com

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hat is per­fec­tion? Is it a fal­lacy or is it a flat line, a plateau-like state that lacks the ex­cite­ment of change? Gen­er­ally I be­lieve it is both, but at this point I feel it is more of the lat­ter. Why, you won­der? Let me elab­o­rate. While read­ing the fea­ture ‘Sin­gle and happy’ on page 24, I was struck by the new find­ings on sin­gle­dom. Ac­cord­ing to the ex­perts men­tioned in the ar­ti­cle, all those who are sin­gle lead happy, ful­fill­ing lives, are able to achieve their goals and hence are less likely to suf­fer from neg­a­tive emo­tions. Since sin­gle peo­ple are the cause and ef­fect of their own men­tal and emo­tional state and are not de­pen­dent on any­body else to reach an­other level of be­ing, they fit into the sten­cil of per­fec­tion that we just dis­cussed. Sim­ple, or is it not?

Strong sin­gle women are not faced with any kind of emo­tional VOID, wait­ing for a sig­nif­i­cant other to come by and FILL it with his EX­ALTED pres­ence. Their strengths make them the driv­ers of their DES­TINY

Well, rhetor­i­cally speak­ing, yes. As the women in­ter­viewed in the fea­ture prove, they are not faced with any kind of emo­tional void, wait­ing for a sig­nif­i­cant other to come by and fill it with his ex­alted pres­ence. For th­ese women their strengths make them the driv­ers of their des­tiny and al­low them to be­lieve that hap­pi­ness does not come with the crutches of a re­la­tion­ship. They are the yin as well as the yang of their lives.

While I have great ad­mi­ra­tion for th­ese women, do I think sin­gle­dom is the pre­ferred state to be? With the jury still out on that, I’d say my vote goes for hap­pi­ness, your re­la­tion­ship sta­tus not­with­stand­ing.

Un­til next week,

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