Lori Borgman finds the funny in everyday life, writing from the heartland of the US. Now, if she could just find her car keys…
Iam missing wit today. Not mine – that train left the station long ago – but the wit of others. I miss hearing friendly banter, lively repartee and the clever twist of a phrase. There’s a playfulness to conversation that is slowly disappearing. But then conversation itself is disappearing.
There is a growing brevity to our conversations today. They tend to be condensed. Telegraphic. We’re all in a hurry, multitasking. It’s not easy doing six things at once and none of them well.
It’s nearly an imposition to ask for someone’s time and presence. Plus, who needs a face-to-face when you’ve probably already covered the nuts and bolts of what you needed to say in an email, Facebook message or text. Or an emoji. Or a combination thereof. ‘Happy Anniversary. I (heart) you.’ Check and done. But conversation isn’t always about need; sometimes it’s about delight.
As we were led to our seats at a restaurant, we passed an alcove with low lights, beautiful decor and four different couples seated at tables for two. Three of the four couples were radiant – basking in the glow of their cell phones.
The fourth couple wasn’t on electronic devices but they looked as dull and glazed over as the couples on their cells. Maybe they were lamenting having left their phones at home.
I’ve never understood why people make plans with someone, clean up, drive to a mutually agreed-upon place and then ignore one another and interact with others through cyberspace. There was a time a woman would have walked out on a man for asking her to dinner, then spending the evening ignoring her and talking to someone else.
I was at a deli where a two-year-old was on her mother’s cell phone while the mother and grandmother ate and talked. Occasionally the child would grunt, thrust the phone at her mother and the mother would retrieve the desired screen for the child. When it was time to leave, the tot screeched, refusing to relinquish the phone. The mother pleaded and cajoled, then pulled out the big guns: ‘Give me that phone or you can’t watch cartoons when we get home!’
I wondered if anyone ever talked to the child or if she simply moved from one screen to another all day. In some corners, even conversing with one’s child has gone from a pleasure to a duty.
I grew up in a family of talkers, as did the husband. Both sets of parents often had friends over for the evening, to have dinner, play cards or simply sit outside on
It’s nearly an imposition to ask for someone’s time and PRESENCE. Plus, who needs a FACE-TO-FACE when you’ve already covered the nuts and bolts of what you needed to say in a Facebook message, text or EMOJIS
a warm night with a cool drink and talk. And talk and laugh, and tease and talk and make jokes, and talk some more long after we’d been sent to bed for the night.
I’d lie awake listening, thinking what grown-up fun that must be to talk and laugh with your friends long after dark. I thought to myself, “I’ll do that someday”.’
We do. But not as often as we once did.