I still love my ex
When our daughter was 11 months old, my partner walked out on us. It hurt like hell. I thought I had moved on, but last week I bumped into him and was gutted when he introduced me to his new wife and baby. I was completely shocked and, as I walked away, I burst into tears as I realised I still loved him. FIONA SAYS: IT WILL TAKE TIME FOR THE PAIN TO FADE It can take a long time for the hurt of a failed relationship to pass and, in your case, probably more so because your daughter is a constant reminder of this man and the painful break-up.
Even if there was a faint possibility the relationship could be rekindled (which seems unlikely), would you want to trust this thoughtless man again?
Seek help from Relate (www.relate. org.uk) and rely on the support of your family and friends.
Try to stay positive and tell yourself you and your daughter deserve better. In time, the pain will fade. Do I need to change my name when my divorced is finalised? I have discussed it with friends, but no one knows if there is a legal requirement. Also, I don’t want to upset my son.
HS FIONA SAYS: YOU CAN REVERT TO YOUR MAIDEN NAME IF YOU WISH There is no legal requirement to give up your name. You can switch back to your maiden name or choose a different one, but doing so will have repercussions for your son that you should consider.
If he is still at school, it may be less problematic if you retain your current surname. Children can be cruel. Other than that, you should inform official institutions such as HMRC of your divorce.