He’s put on weight
I love my husband but over the past four years he has put on a lot of weight.
He acknowledges that he is heavy and that he is probably putting his health at risk, but he’s reluctant to do anything about it.
I’ve tried and tried to get him to join a gym but he won’t go. What’s really bothering me is that I fear I am no longer attracted to him sexually. Do you think if I tell him it will make him lose weight? FIONA SAYS: MAKE LIFESTYLE CHANGES TOGETHER In my experience, probably not and it’s more likely to severely dent his self-image and create even more friction between you over this issue.
Instead encourage him by saying you would love to see him the way he was when you first got together.
Then do all you can to help him lose the weight, which doesn’t have to mean joining a gym.
Couple this with only having healthy food in the house and I am sure you’ll soon see results. My ex-wife and I used to run a business together. but we had to sell everything, including the house, and we ended up getting a messy and spiteful divorce. Three years on I still feel bitter, as now I can only afford to rent a tiny flat. My ex-wife by comparison has re-married and started another business. Why can’t I move on from this? FIONA SAYS: FOCUS ON THE FUTURE You’ve been badly hurt by this experience and it’s understandable that you feel bitter.
However, nothing will be gained by dwelling on the pain. You must move on from here if you are to be happy again.
Your ex-wife has shown that it is possible and, if she can do it, so can you.