Sister is ignoring me
Before he passed away, I looked after my elderly father for several years, who battled with both prostate cancer and dementia. He was very hard work at times, but I was happy to care for him as my sister lives on the other side of the country and has a tough job, as well as three teenage children.
Towards the end of his life though, I developed M.E. and I simply didn’t have the energy to manage. Because we don’t have any other close family members, my sister was forced to take over. Sadly, I never got to see my dad again and he died a few months later.
My M.E. is now, more or less, stabilised. My sister and I had little or no contact while I was ill but I was fine with that, because I knew she had more than enough to do with our dad.
Since the funeral though, she’s ignored the emails and messages I’ve left on her mobile phone. I’ve even sent a letter by post but got no reply. Why is she doing this to me? FIONA SAYS: YOU NEED TO SIT DOWN AND TALK It’s possible that she doesn’t understand just how debilitating M.E. can be and thinks you used it as an excuse to pass your father’s care across to her.
The bottom line is, you won’t know until you’ve had a chance to talk to her.
In the meantime, try not to judge her too harshly. She may have very valid reasons why she is avoiding contact that might have nothing to do with you. Continue to leave messages that stress how worried you are about her and that you miss her.