He’s too controlling
At first my future son-in-law seemed like a lovely man. However, since my daughter moved in with him, he’s turned into a monster.
He is incredibly jealous and insists on knowing where she is at every moment of the day. My daughter is really upset and has become so frightened of doing anything that she rarely goes out unless he is with her.
I’m really worried, but when I suggest she leaves him, she says she still loves him. GN FIONA SAYS: TREAD CAREFULLY You are right to be concerned because this type of jealous, possessive behaviour is often ingrained and hard to change, and it can also lead to violence. However, you need to be cautious.
If you apply too much pressure on your daughter, you risk pushing her even further away. As she still loves him, it would be better to let them work towards their own solution, because it’s possible he’s just really insecure.
Let her know you love her and are there for her, then make sure she knows where to go for help if she needs it. I am 45 and during a holiday in Cyprus recently I met a man. We had a great time together. I was delighted when he offered me his email address and suggested we get in touch. A week after getting back he dropped me an email to say he had a great time and I replied, suggesting we meet up. That was two days ago and I have heard nothing. Should I email him again? LF FIONA SAYS: DON’T JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS It is possible he is only an occasional user of his email account and hasn’t read your reply. So wait for a few more days. If you have still heard nothing, send him another. If this goes unanswered, I think you may have to accept this was indeed just a holiday romance.