So envious of my friend
Ashamed as I am to admit it, I am really jealous of my friend and her life. We are both in our 50s and have always been at a similar level in terms of wealth. But recently, her husband inherited a lot of money, and it’s really changed the dynamic of our friendship. I feel like she’s flaunting her good fortune in my face. She’s given up work, while I’m still going to the office every day. She’s always buying fancy handbags and wants to go to expensive restaurants, and I just can’t keep up. It’s putting a massive strain on our friendship. Lisa, Dublin
Jealousy is a futile emotion, so – though I know it’s easier said than done – you should try to control it, as it can be very destructive. At the end of the day, you are the only one who will suffer if you let it slowly consume you. It sounds like you don’t have a terrible standard of life yourself, so don’t crave the expensive bags. Instead, simply try to be happy and count your blessings. There’s also another consideration: maybe this is one friend you don’t need in your life, if she is so obsessed with money.