So en­vi­ous of my friend


Ashamed as I am to ad­mit it, I am re­ally jeal­ous of my friend and her life. We are both in our 50s and have al­ways been at a sim­i­lar level in terms of wealth. But re­cently, her hus­band in­her­ited a lot of money, and it’s re­ally changed the dy­namic of our friend­ship. I feel like she’s flaunt­ing her good for­tune in my face. She’s given up work, while I’m still go­ing to the of­fice ev­ery day. She’s al­ways buy­ing fancy hand­bags and wants to go to ex­pen­sive restau­rants, and I just can’t keep up. It’s putting a mas­sive strain on our friend­ship. Lisa, Dublin

Jeal­ousy is a fu­tile emo­tion, so – though I know it’s eas­ier said than done – you should try to con­trol it, as it can be very de­struc­tive. At the end of the day, you are the only one who will suf­fer if you let it slowly con­sume you. It sounds like you don’t have a ter­ri­ble stan­dard of life your­self, so don’t crave the ex­pen­sive bags. In­stead, sim­ply try to be happy and count your bless­ings. There’s also an­other con­sid­er­a­tion: maybe this is one friend you don’t need in your life, if she is so ob­sessed with money.

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