Your head up and belief in your­self’

For­mer vic­tim now ad­vises oth­ers how to cope

Buckinghamshire Advertiser - - SPECIAL REPORT -

telling you to end it.

“And you do not know what th­ese peo­ple are ca­pa­ble of. Some­times when you see them in per­son it is almost as if noth­ing has hap­pened.

“If I’m hon­est, I went down­hill be­fore I went up­hill. I started self-harm­ing. I was hos­pi­talised. I ba­si­cally gave the bul­lies what they wanted.

“Then ev­ery day I woke up and gave my­self one rea­son to be­lieve in my­self. They would say I’m fat – I knew I was, so I did some­thing about it. I put my­self on a diet and did ex­er­cise.

“But the best thing is to ig­nore them. You have to keep your head held up and be­lieve in who you are. Even though things are drag­ging you down, you have to keep pos­i­tive.”

After years of tor­ment and ex­as­per­a­tion at the in­tru­sive el­e­ment of sites such as Face­book, she has now deleted all of her per­sonal ac­counts.

“I have had them all – Face­book, Twit­ter, Bebo – and I deleted them all about six months ago just be­cause of the drama.

“Ev­ery­one knows ev­ery­one’s business when you are on a so­cial me­dia site – noth­ing is se­cret and it is easy for peo­ple to prey on you.”

The woman says chil­dren who she works with of­ten re­port in­ci­dents of cy­ber bul­ly­ing to her.

She added: “The only thing we can ad­vise is to re­port it to Face­book and get it taken down.

“We look at the state­ment and say how pa­thetic and make sure that per­son knows they are not what the bully says.”

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