Cheat site hack leads to spike in divorce help
THE Ashley Madison hack has seen divorce enquires spike in Bucks, a family lawyer has revealed.
Ashley Madison is a website which allows married people to cheat on their partners. The site was hacked in July and the names of 37million cheaters were revealed.
Family solicitor at IBB Solicitors, in Church Street, Chesham, Richard Phillips is urging those unhappy in their marriage to seek marriage counselling, rather then using websites such as Ashley Madison.
He said: “Instead of looking for what is usually short-term excitement, those tempted by an affair should think about relationship counselling, to explore the issues in the marriage, and examine whether the relationship is worth saving and can be saved. Although some relationships can recover after an affair, it can take a long time to rebuild trust. It is much better to work out what is wrong and to try to find a preventative solution, rather than retrospectively try to fix perhaps irreparable damage.”
Mr Phillips said just because someone was on the site does not necessarily mean they had an affair.
He added: “In the wake of the Ashley Madison hacking, many people will be very worried about their names and other details appearing in public. They will all fear that their spouses or partners might find out and seek divorce. Proof of registration on a site such as Ashley Madison is not in itself proof of an affair, but often, merely knowing your spouse considered an affair is enough serious harm.
“However, the trend for affairs is not new. Before the days of dating sites and social media, “lonely hearts” ads in newspapers’ classified sections attracted people seeking relationships out of marriage. Now, a degree of efficiency has been brought to the search for an affair.
“Even before Ashley Madison, divorce petitions cited social media as being at least partly responsible for the breakdown of marriages, with clients reestablishing relationships with first loves or old flames. Some people find happiness and fulfilment but most do not, and leave a trail of great unhappiness and bitterness.”