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When a guy sends W you a Facebook friend request, it’s effectively the modern-day equivalent of a Jane Austen hero asking you to dance. And it’s just as stressful – placing one foot out of line can jeopardise everything.
Having been stung before via Facebook – discovering an ex was adding every girl possible to his friends list (and they were a lot closer than that) – I don’t usually add anyone I’m seeing.
So I panicked when a guy I’d been on a few dates with “requested” me. I wasn’t sure I was ready to be exposed to his digital world (and any other girls he could be seeing). But if I didn’t add him it would look like I had something to hide.
Social media breeds insecurity in me. Who is that girl liking all his posts? Is he still friends with his ex? This is before I get to worrying about what I’ve put on my own profile… like those fat photos of me, and the fact I have a tendency to overshare online after a few glasses of wine.
Which is why I recently ended up spending three hours “cleansing” my Facebook – removing bad photos, hiding personal posts and making sure all traces of my exes had gone. Now I have to wait it out and hope that the revised “Facebook” version of me is enough to keep him interested.
Closer’s intrepid dater, Rebecca Twomey, undergoes a ‘social media cleanse’ after becoming Facebook friends with a date