Closer (UK) - - Well Being -

When a guy sends W you a Face­book friend re­quest, it’s ef­fec­tively the mod­ern-day equiv­a­lent of a Jane Austen hero ask­ing you to dance. And it’s just as stress­ful – plac­ing one foot out of line can jeop­ar­dise ev­ery­thing.

Hav­ing been stung be­fore via Face­book – dis­cov­er­ing an ex was adding ev­ery girl pos­si­ble to his friends list (and they were a lot closer than that) – I don’t usu­ally add any­one I’m see­ing.

So I pan­icked when a guy I’d been on a few dates with “re­quested” me. I wasn’t sure I was ready to be ex­posed to his dig­i­tal world (and any other girls he could be see­ing). But if I didn’t add him it would look like I had some­thing to hide.

So­cial me­dia breeds in­se­cu­rity in me. Who is that girl lik­ing all his posts? Is he still friends with his ex? This is be­fore I get to wor­ry­ing about what I’ve put on my own pro­file… like those fat pho­tos of me, and the fact I have a ten­dency to over­share on­line af­ter a few glasses of wine.

Which is why I re­cently ended up spend­ing three hours “cleans­ing” my Face­book – re­mov­ing bad pho­tos, hid­ing per­sonal posts and mak­ing sure all traces of my exes had gone. Now I have to wait it out and hope that the re­vised “Face­book” ver­sion of me is enough to keep him in­ter­ested.

Closer’s in­trepid dater, Re­becca Twomey, un­der­goes a ‘so­cial me­dia cleanse’ af­ter be­com­ing Face­book friends with a date

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