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Closer’s intrepid dater, Rebecca Twomey, on finding a balance with the rules of romance
The so-called T “rules” of modern courtship are just one contradiction after another, you’re not supposed to come across as too available – apparently because men love the chase, but I’ve also been warned not to play games as it puts off the nice guys. Finding a balance between the two is like walking
a tight rope over a crocodileinfested swamp – either way something is going to snap.
I tried to play it cool with the guy I’ve been seeing and waited for him to ask me out for the next date. But unbeknown to him, I kept Saturday night free “just in case” he suggested meeting up. But the day came and went without any mention of seeing each other.
I was annoyed, but couldn’t fire that in his direction – I was angry at myself that I’d sabotaged my Saturday in the hope he’d fit in with the plan that was only in my head. Should I have just asked him outright if he was free to meet? But isn’t that too keen? Or should I have made other plans then, if he’d got in touch, told him I was busy all weekend? But isn’t that just playing games? I’ll let you know when I’ve found out!