A re­cent study showed that 8 in 10 mil­len­ni­als don’t feel it’s im­por­tant to see mates in per­son, but, Emma in­sists we so­cialise in the real world to limit the risk of de­pres­sion

Closer (UK) - - Well Being -

The other day, T I asked my el­dest son why I hadn’t seen much of his best mate re­cently. Look­ing be­mused, he sim­ply said, “He’s on my head­set now.” Wel­come to mod­ern-day com­mu­ni­ca­tion, where be­ing in the same room, or even the same coun­try, no longer de­fines re­la­tion­ships.


When I tell my chil­dren that we used to have one phone for the whole fam­ily and that it was at­tached to the wall, they look at me as if I have three heads.

I am the first to ad­mit that we have come on leaps and bounds re­gard­ing the progress of com­mu­ni­ca­tion, but I draw the line at the sugges­tion that you can main­tain close friend­ships by sim­ply Face­book­ing them, or adding them to your What­sapp group chat.

Spend­ing time with peo­ple you love and who “get you” stim­u­lates lots of re­ward­ing brain chem­i­cals and gen­uinely im­proves mood while de­creas­ing stress lev­els.

When you hang out with your BFF, you re­in­force one another’s self-worth and in­crease the bond­ing be­tween you. Con­versely, re­search by Ox­ford Univer­sity found that when you keep in touch through Face­book and so­cial me­dia alone, you ac­tu­ally weaken the bonds of friend­ship. The ma­jor­ity of re­search con­firms that be­ing con­stantly cy­ber con­nected of­ten means that we feel ha­rassed by the per­pet­ual vi­bra­tions of point­less no­ti­fi­ca­tions buzzing. Switch­ing off will only im­prove our mood while cre­at­ing es­sen­tial time and space where we can cul­ti­vate im­por­tant re­la­tion­ships.

So­cial net­works are mak­ing us lazy, and falsely con­vinc­ing us that we are in touch with our near­est and dear­est. If you know that you are guilty of such bad habits, it’s time to change.


Sched­ul­ing your so­cial life can save you and your mates from so­cial me­dia sui­cide and en­sure that you make an ef­fort to see them on a reg­u­lar ba­sis. Even if you are busy at work, set aside time ev­ery week for vis­its and catch-ups.

Fi­nally, pri­ori­tise re­la­tion­ships that you get the most from, such as your best friend or a close fam­ily mem­ber. It’s a pos­i­tive life hack, mean­ing that what­ever so­cial time you have free is spent with the most re­ward­ing peo­ple.

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