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Closer’s dating expert, Rebecca Twomey, discusses the dilemma of finding something to do with a potential partner that doesn’t involve drinking alcohol
First dates are far F from the fun-filled flirt-a-thon people in relationships imagine them to be. They’re usually just awkward exchanges with a stranger. And this is undoubtedly why, according to a recent survey from Seeking.com, almost half of singles want to keep things short – around 12 sips short – and go for coffee on a first date.
I’ve only been on a handful of coffee dates, most cafes are loud and anything but intimate. On first dates, I prefer to get a takeaway coffee and go for a stroll. If it’s going well, you can keep walking or grab some lunch together. But if you’re stuck in a cafe, and the date’s going well, ordering more than one coffee could turn you into a jittery mess.
What I struggle with is date ideas once I’ve done the dinner, drinks, walks et al (and sometimes all in one day). I don’t like to get repeatedly
drunk as I feel the alcohol can often blur how I really feel – and it’s also expensive.
Recently I attempted to go on a hike with a guy and have a romantic lunch in the sunshine. But, of course, on that particular day the heavens decided to open and put a damper on things. Coming up with a plan B was a struggle – the cinema meant we’d be sitting in silence when I wanted to spend my time getting to know him more. And we weren’t at the stage where we’d go to each other’s place, so we were stuck. We toyed with the idea of visiting a gallery or museum, but that only filled a few hours, so we caved in and went to the pub. I decided not to drink and we trialled a mini pub crawl to keep us entertained.
Finding affordable things to do that aren’t dictated by the weather is a challenge, and things that don’t involve drinking. But then again, if you’re with the right company anything you do will be fun – even walking in the rain.