A dressing down
I’m a bridesmaid and the bride has chosen the most hideous dress. Is it ever okay to say something or subtly suggest an alternative?
Sorry, I’m confused. Is this most hideous dress her own bridal gown or the one that she’s requiring you, her bridesmaid, to wear? Actually, the question is academic. If the former, then she has been mentally designing this little number ever since she was five. It’s what—gawd help her— she wants.
I mean, one could nudge the conversation towards, say, the Middleton sisters, who give great wedding advice. Allude, glancingly, to Grace Kelly. Take a photo at the fittings, by all means, show it to her and she may see sense. Anything more, be it ever so subtle, will torpedo the friendship—she’s a gunpowder keg of nerves as it is.
If she’s asking you, her bridesmaid, to wear this most hideous dress, then sorry, chum, but you should have read the small print on your contract. The function of a bridesmaid is to make the bride look better by contrast—she has thoroughly grasped that point.