How do I broach the subject of my prospective son-in-law’s parents contributing to the wedding?
It’s 2017 and the notion of a woman being ‘given away’, of ‘obeying’ her husband and, by extension, of her father footing the bill like some medieval bride price, is as noxious as, shall we say, a statue of Cecil Rhodes. If the mean old git hasn’t already offered to pay what he can, your daughter needs seriously to reconsider the choice of family she’s marrying into.
He must be shamed into evolution. Raise the petard of political correctness in right-minded company and wait for him to hoist himself. With any luck, he’ll write a cheque for the whole thing out of sheer embarrassment, in order to hush it up.