Oh, the agony!
Resident agony uncle Kit Hesketh-harvey solves your dilemmas Here comes the next bride Q Having already accepted an invitation to a friend’s wedding, it now emerges that my uncle is to be married (for the third time) on the same day. Do family take precedence or is it a case of first come, first served? I would hate to disappoint anyone, but the two events are miles apart.
A. H., Lancashire A Now, come on—having accepted an invitation, it is never, ever acceptable to chuck it for another. As for a third marriage, of course, sometimes things don’t work out, but whereas to lose one wife may be regarded as misfortune, to lose two does look like carelessness. He’s clearly keen on the theory, but might need to put his shoulder more to the practice.
Had they been in neighbouring parishes, I would not even try to attend both. For better, for worse, a modern wedding is an all-day event. (Actually, no question: worse.) Don’t worry about your uncle —he will so rejoice that he is blessed with a wellbrought up family that, for richer, for poorer, you’ll still be in the will. If there’s anything left, that is, after alimony.