Why have the one wedding when you can have two?
J WHEN you read this, the second royal wedding in five months will have taken place. Because of deadlines, I have to write before it happens. I hope it has gone well – any bride and groom deserve the best on their big day. But this appetite for mega weddings does seem a bit strange to me.
Harry and Meghan didn’t have much choice, of course. And yet I bet Harry, who hates all the publicity and formality that goes with being a prince, would have much preferred to elope. He and Meghan could have married quietly on a desert island somewhere, or at a tiny church in a remote rural spot.
Princess Eugenie (who’s marrying Jack Brooksbank) may be royal but she didn’t have to emulate Harry’s wedding. In her case, it was a matter of choice to invite 850 guests to St George’s Chapel in Windsor and parade through the town in an open carriage afterwards, at massive cost to the taxpayer who must fund their police protection. I suppose, to be fair, the decision may have come from her parents rather than Eugenie. And Andrew and Fergie have always had delusions of grandeur.
But I just don’t get this desire for massive weddings. The cost and stress would have given me palpitations and ruined the day. My own daughter is getting married in December, a tiny wedding in a rural church, with dinner afterwards for immediate family and a few close friends. Perfect.
And yet… this is just Chloe’s “legal” wedding. She wants the main event to take place abroad the summer after next, with 150 guests and the whole works.
This is absolutely par for the course in her social circle; all her friends have enjoyed lavish two-day weddings in Spain, Italy or France. It’s what the young do these days. But TWO weddings? How on earth can they stand it?
I was talking to an old friend the other day. She got married in her lunch hour at a local church, took the afternoon off work and had a small reception at her mum’s house. Richard and I got married in a register office with just 30 people present and then had lunch in a country pub. Our honeymoon was a weekend in a Cotswolds hotel. It was all blissfully stress-free.
Still, times change, and I’m looking forwards to Chloe’s double-wedding enormously. And I wish Eugenie and her Jack lots of luck and happiness.
NUPTIALS: Jack and Princess Eugenie