TALE OF TWO VERY MODERN DADS BOTH claim­ing to be first man in UK to give birth

Scott, 23, lived as a girl un­til 2015. He got preg­nant af­ter a drunken one night stand with a friend

Daily Mail - - News - By Tom Kelly

THE first Bri­tish man to give birth be­came preg­nant af­ter a onenight stand.

Scott Parker was al­ready liv­ing as a man when he con­ceived daugh­ter Sara last Au­gust. He was on a gen­der tran­si­tion pro­gramme but had not started hor­mone treat­ment.

He gave birth on April 29, seven weeks be­fore Hay­den Cross who had been thought to be the first Bri­tish man to do so.

The 23-year- old graphic designer said the un­planned preg­nancy fol­low­ing a drunken fling with a male friend was his lucky, last chance to have a child nor­mally.

He said: ‘I did want to have my own chil­dren, and I had thought about how it might be pos­si­ble with fer­til­ity treat­ment, but in the end I just wrote it off as some­thing that is not go­ing to hap­pen. I thought I’m a man now – I can’t have chil­dren. Now I have ev­ery­thing. I am the man I am meant to be and a par­ent. I want oth­ers to know they can do it too. It is won­der­ful that at­ti­tudes are chang­ing and peo­ple like me can cel­e­brate be­ing a par­ent.’

Mr Parker, whose ma­ter­nity card used the gen­der-neu­tral ti­tle ‘Mx’ rather than ‘Mr’, said he had spent five weeks ‘ chest-feed­ing’ his beloved daugh­ter.

He added: ‘She is beau­ti­ful and I feel so for­tu­nate, and I think I am do­ing pretty well as a par­ent.’

He hopes that when Sara and Mr Cross’s daugh­ter grow up it will be more nor­mal for chil­dren to have been born to men.

Mr Parker, who asked to have his sur­name changed for me­dia re­ports, said he knew as a child he was born the wrong sex.

He be­gan liv­ing full time as a man in May 2015, switch­ing his first name by deed poll to Scott.

His part­ner, who asked not to be named, in­tends to adopt Sara and be­come her le­gal par­ent. He also was born fe­male and is tran­si­tion­ing to be­come a man.

Sara’s bi­o­log­i­cal fa­ther does not want to be in­volved in the baby’s life.

Mr Parker was placed on the NHS tran­si­tion pro­gramme in June 2016, two months be­fore he be­came preg­nant, and is a pa­tient at the gen­der iden­tity clinic at Char­ing Cross Hos­pi­tal in West Lon­don.

He is due to be given a testos­terone in­jec­tion this Oc­to­ber which will set in mo­tion ir­re­versible phys­i­cal changes. He is also plan­ning

‘It was the per­fect chance’

to have an op­er­a­tion to re­move his breasts next year and surgery to trans­form other or­gans.

‘I knew that my chest would get big­ger [in preg­nancy], but that I was go­ing to have surgery one day and they’ll be gone,’ he said.

‘And I might be hav­ing a lot of oe­stro­gen now, but I’m go­ing to have testos­terone even­tu­ally and that will be fine. There were days when I felt un­com­fort­able with my body. I tried to cover my chest as much as pos­si­ble and wear bag­gier clothes.’

He added: ‘This was pretty much the only op­por­tu­nity I’ll have to have a child free of med­i­cal in­ter­ven­tion. It was the per­fect chance.’

He said be­ing a preg­nant man caused some con­fu­sion and a hos­pi­tal clerk at his 12-week scan as­sumed he was in the wrong place.

But he added: ‘ev­ery­one in the med­i­cal field has re­ferred to me as dad since we moved to Brighton.

‘ They were won­der­ful about me be­ing a preg­nant man and giv­ing birth. I was the first they had come across so they were keen to learn and ac­com­mo­date me. When I didn’t want to go to the an­te­na­tal classes with women, my mid­wife dis­cussed ev­ery­thing that I needed to know on a one- on- one ba­sis. She was amaz­ing.’ Mr Parker was in­duced on April 28 – ten days over­due. Sara was de­liv­ered the fol­low­ing morn­ing in a birthing pool af­ter a six-hour overnight labour.

Mr Parker said his men­tal health nurse mother, brick­layer fa­ther and three sis­ters all sup­ported his tran­si­tion and his preg­nancy.

Older rel­a­tives were also sup­port­ive, but would ac­ci­den­tally use his birth name or say things like ‘ Go back to mummy’ to his daugh­ter.

Mr Parker said he would tell Sara the story of her con­cep­tion when she was older, ex­plain­ing that he gave birth to her.

He said: ‘I’ll tell her that I was born ex­actly the same way you are now but I’m a boy. I’m a girl who grew up to be a big boy.’

Proud: Scott Parker with daugh­ter Sara. Left: When he was a young girl


Ex­pect­ing: Mr Parker heav­ily preg­nant

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