ABOUT 20 years ago, my heart was smashed to smithereens when my fiance broke off our relationship about nine weeks before our wedding.
I grew up in care. He was the one person in the world I trusted and counted on, and his betrayal almost destroyed my faith in humanity.
To this day, I have no idea why he did it and vowed never to let it happen again.
Over the past two decades I have not had any romantic relationships, part from a couple of brief, opportunistic flings. I have been very focused on my work, which I find satisfying. In my personal life I’m happy with my friends and hobbies, but I would be lying if I didn’t admit I sometimes feel lonely.
A few months ago, a former colleague contacted me on social media and we have since established a close email friendship, which I am enjoying immensely.
Recently, he admitted he had always liked me and would like to pursue a romantic relationship, if I was willing.
He is a gentle soul who has never married (we are both in our 50s, by the way) and I’m fond of him. As far as I know him, I trust him.
I’m certain he would never do anything intentionally to hurt me — but, then again, I believed that of my fiance and look what happened.
I’m deeply torn between wanting to get closer to this man and wanting to protect my heart — which feels as though it is covered with barbed wire and ‘Keep out’ signs. Please give me your perspective. MIMI