Mums spend first Christmas with their big­gest gift

Daily Mail - - News - By Lucy Laing

THEIR bright eyes and beam­ing faces tell us it’s a time for cheer.

But al­though these five new moth­ers are at last shar­ing the joys of Christmas with their ba­bies, the fes­tive pe­riod has not al­ways been one for cel­e­bra­tion.

Be­tween them, they have en­dured nearly 30 years of heartache and loss in their strug­gle to be­come moth­ers.

Now, af­ter rounds of IVF treat­ment, each of them fi­nally has their Christmas wish – a happy and healthy lit­tle helper.

‘These women have all been through a lot to have their ba­bies and it’s amaz­ing they are go­ing to be fi­nally spend­ing their first Christmas to­gether as fam­i­lies,’ said Si­mon Fis­chel, who is med­i­cal di­rec­tor at fer­til­ity clinic CARE – where the new moth­ers each un­der­went treat­ment.

Jo Green­field, 36, said it would be the first happy Christmas for her fam­ily af­ter try­ing to have a baby for four years.

She and hus­band richard, 38, who live in Cum­bria, tried ev­ery­thing to con­ceive – in­clud­ing fer­til­ity drugs and a trau­matic in­ves­ti­ga­tion in which her uterus and cervix were dam­aged.

Mrs Green­field even­tu­ally be­came preg­nant af­ter a se­cond round of IVF and gave birth to son Finn in Oc­to­ber.

‘When he was fi­nally born it was the most amaz­ing mo­ment of our lives. I just couldn’t stop cry­ing.

‘I had ru­ined the last three fam­ily Christmas cel­e­bra­tions be­cause I couldn’t cope not be­ing a mum.

‘ So it’s go­ing to be a lovely Christmas fi­nally for us all this year. Ev­ery time I look at him, I just think how in­cred­i­bly lucky we have been,’ she said.

It was a sim­i­larly trau­matic path to moth­er­hood for Carla Kerr, 32, who had been try­ing to have a baby for 11 years.

She suf­fered two mis­car­riages be­fore her daugh­ter Grace fi­nally ar­rived in June.

She and her hus­band car­pen­ter An­drew, 38, from Bolton, took out a loan to pay for three rounds of IVF, cost­ing £13,000.

Mrs Kerr said: ‘Ev­ery scan I went to I was ter­ri­fied the doc­tors weren’t go­ing to find a heart­beat.

‘When I was 39 weeks preg­nant, there was sud­denly no move­ment from Grace in my womb.

‘I was raced to hos­pi­tal where docs did an emer­gency cae­sarean to get Grace out, and thank­fully she was fine. When I look at her now, I can’t be­lieve I’m a mum

‘We have been in­cred­i­bly lucky’

at last.’ Stacey Blenkin, 31, a claims han­dler, trag­i­cally lost her pre­ma­ture baby daugh­ter in 2016.

She and her hus­band Alis­tair, 27, had been try­ing to con­ceive for four years – and af­ter a fourth round of IVF her son Sonny was born at 29 weeks in April this year, weigh­ing just 2lb.

Mrs Blenkin, from Hal­i­fax, West York­shire, said: ‘We thought we were go­ing to lose this baby too.

‘Doc­tors de­liv­ered Sonny weigh­ing just 2lb, he has fought through to sur­vive. He’s our lit­tle Christmas mir­a­cle.’ Louise Dud­ley, 35, from Derby, also lost a baby be­fore fi­nally hav­ing her son Jack. She and en­gi­neer hus­band Steven had been try­ing for four years and on their fourth and fi­nal try last year she be­came preg­nant again.

The nurse, who gave birth in Au­gust, said: ‘We were des­per­ate for a baby but noth­ing was work­ing for us.

‘So we turned to fer­til­ity treat­ment and had three goes at ar­ti­fi­cial in­sem­i­na­tion but noth­ing worked. We had a course of IVF in July 2018 where I did fall preg­nant, but then at an early scan it showed no heart­beat, which was dev­as­tat­ing. I couldn’t be­lieve it had taken so much to fi­nally fall preg­nant and then our baby had died.’

The cou­ple had frozen one em­bryo from that cy­cle of treat­ment, and af­ter try­ing again in 2018, they were thrilled to find it had worked.

‘At our first scan, I was re­ally ner­vous in case there was no heart­beat again, but it was there, pump­ing away on the screen.

‘Even­tu­ally Jack was born safely. We call him Jack Frost be­cause he came out from the freezer and he was our last hope!’ Emma McGe­orge, 31, had been try­ing for eight years and, af­ter a dev­as­tat­ing ec­topic preg­nancy, she had been so des­per­ate to be­come a mother that she ex­pe­ri­enced a ‘phan­tom preg­nancy’.

The spe­cial ed­u­ca­tional needs ad­min­is­tra­tor and ac­coun­tant hus­band Sam, 31, from Derby, fi­nally had baby Isla in March – af­ter two rounds of IVF.

But the new mother al­most died giv­ing birth af­ter los­ing around four pints of blood. She said: ‘Sam was told to say good­bye to me as they didn’t think I would make it.

‘Luck­ily I pulled through and Isla is the best Christmas pre­sent we could have asked for.’

Very merry: Louise Dud­ley and Jack, born af­ter four rounds of IVF

Spe­cial de­liv­ery: Stacey Blenkin and baby Sonny

Mir­a­cle: Jo Green­field and Finn Big day: Carla Kerr and Grace

Cud­dles: Emma McGe­orge and Isla

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