IN DENIAL OVER OUR BREAK-UP
I’m struggling with a recent break-up. My boyfriend was a lovely guy, but there were a few issues like my insecurities that seemed to cause arguments between us. I partly agreed with him that maybe we shouldn’t be together, but my heart is so broken and I miss him so much I’ve cut myself off from everyone. I just can’t facing telling anyone that we’ve actually split up. I know living in denial isn’t going to fix anything, but I just can’t speak the words out loud. I know we both still had a lot to learn about each other, and I don’t think we tried to understand each other’s vulnerabilities and insecurities, but I’d love us to still be a couple. He cares too much about what other people think, whereas when it comes to our relationship, I think the only opinions that matter are ours. I respect that he doesn’t want to see me any more, but how do I get over this pain?
With time. It’s a cliché I’m afraid, but it’s true. A broken heart hurts like hell, but it’s a normal part of healing and moving on. I think you should start voicing it because that makes it real and living in denial won’t make you feel any better. Start telling people and letting the reality in – you are just putting off the inevitable and the pain will last longer. As with any heartache, sharing it with a good friend or a relative is a relief and will help you start to put things into perspective. Don’t cut yourself off from those who can help.