I WANT HER TO ACT OUT MY FANTASY
I’m a guy in my mid-30s and I fantasise a lot about having sex in public – a beach, a field, a restaurant toilet and so on.
However, my girlfriend, who I’ve been seeing for two years, is quite straight when it comes to sex. Our love life is good and she enjoys it, but I don’t think she’d take it well if I suggested we nipped to the loo for a quickie during dinner somewhere.
Is it weird to have these fantasies and do you think there’s any way I could persuade my girlfriend to get excited about them too?
I think fantasies are great – they aren’t ‘weird’ at all and can really spice up your sex life.
I think yours is probably a pretty common one – the thrill of being exposed and watched, and perhaps getting caught. However, you can make them part of sex by talking about them when you’re making love and imagining the scene, rather than actually risking arrest by taking it outside. Remember, CCTV is everywhere these days!
From what you’ve said, I think the likelihood of your girlfriend getting on board with having sex in a public place is pretty slim, but you can still be adventurous in your own space – take it out of the bedroom and into other places in the house. Have you got a garden that’s not overlooked?