Daily Mirror (Northern Ireland) - - DEAR COLEEN -

Dear Coleen

I’m a guy in my mid-30s and I fan­ta­sise a lot about hav­ing sex in pub­lic – a beach, a field, a restau­rant toi­let and so on.

How­ever, my girl­friend, who I’ve been see­ing for two years, is quite straight when it comes to sex. Our love life is good and she en­joys it, but I don’t think she’d take it well if I sug­gested we nipped to the loo for a quickie dur­ing din­ner some­where.

Is it weird to have these fan­tasies and do you think there’s any way I could per­suade my girl­friend to get ex­cited about them too?

Coleen says

I think fan­tasies are great – they aren’t ‘weird’ at all and can re­ally spice up your sex life.

I think yours is prob­a­bly a pretty com­mon one – the thrill of be­ing ex­posed and watched, and per­haps get­ting caught. How­ever, you can make them part of sex by talk­ing about them when you’re mak­ing love and imag­in­ing the scene, rather than ac­tu­ally risk­ing ar­rest by tak­ing it out­side. Re­mem­ber, CCTV is ev­ery­where these days!

From what you’ve said, I think the like­li­hood of your girl­friend get­ting on board with hav­ing sex in a pub­lic place is pretty slim, but you can still be adventurous in your own space – take it out of the bedroom and into other places in the house. Have you got a garden that’s not over­looked?

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