Ask Dr Miriam
QAfter a visit to an
STI clinic, I’ve been told I have genital herpes for life. I feel so depressed. How will I find a partner? A Finding out you have genital herpes can be a blow, but remember that while you do have the virus for life, it isn’t active all the time and to a certain extent you can prevent it becoming active yourself.
Stress and anxiety are two main triggers, and so are negative thoughts such as the ones you have expressed. So if you possibly can, you should try to get rid of that pessimism.
If a negative thought pops into your head, correct it.
So, “No one will want me” turns into “Eight out of 10 partners I talk to will say it’s fine”.
This is a fact!
And “I’m the only one in this room with this condition” turns into “over seven in 10 people aged 25 have it somewhere”.
This is also a fact!