I SLEPT WITH HIM, NOW HE IGNORES ME

Dear Coleen

My older sister got married this year and had a big ceremony. Lots of her new husband’s family flew in from abroad, where they live.

My sister’s husband has two brothers, one of whom I’ve really fancied since I first met him.

One thing led to another and on the night of the wedding, after days of flirting, we sneaked off to a private place and hooked up that night and the next evening.

It ended in him returning back home and not even keeping in contact with me.

It’s been months since the wedding but I can’t seem to get over it. How can I get over him and this secret I have to live with?

Coleen says

Honestly, I think you know the cold hard truth is he’s not interested in pursuing a relationship with you so you just have to get over it.

It sounds like a lovely, fleeting and fun experience that you just need to chalk up to a one off.

I wouldn’t take it too personally though – as you say, he lives far away and probably doesn’t want a relationship or any more than he offered you in those couple of days.

It’s difficult when you still have feelings and possibly wanted more from it and it’s not happening. But that sometimes happens in life.

The other thing to consider is the family connection – if things go wrong it could all get a bit awkward.

It’s not like he promised you the earth or led you on, so I don’t think he’s behaved unfairly. But just make sure if there are any more family parties and get-togethers, you don’t end up as an easy fling for him.