MY WEIGHT’S PUTTING HUBBY OFF

Dear Coleen

I’ve put on a lot of weight since getting married two years ago. I guess I’ve been happy and content, but I can tell it’s an issue for my husband and I’m worried he’s interested in other women.

I don’t know how to get out of this rut or how I even really got into it. I’m feeling bad about myself and really hurt that he seems to have lost interest in me.

Coleen says

The main problem here is that you feel bad about yourself. And when we lose confidence in ourselves, it’s very easy to read other things into the situation.

You don’t say how you know it’s an issue for your husband – maybe it’s not.

However, if you’re not feeling sexy and attractive, and have lost interest in sex because of the way you see yourself, then it will have a knock-on effect.

If it’s starting to affect your relationship and your own happiness, then the only thing to do is to take control and do something about it. But do it for yourself. I actually think it’s quite a common dilemma when people are happy and settled – and it can happen to men as well as women.

If you think you can’t go it alone, then join a slimming club. And start being more active, too, even if it’s just getting outdoors for a walk – your mood will lift instantly, and you’ll also feel stronger and less insecure.