YOU SAY

Many of your correspondents write to you about feelings of guilt for being sexually attracted to someone outside of their relationship or expressing their resentment about their partner “cheating”on them.

Like you, I’m not an advocate of open relationships, particularly when the couple have children, but we need to reconsider our views concerning infidelity. Sex with someone who isn’t your partner isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

We live in an ageing society and many people live in sexless marriages. To forsake all others till death do us part may be a very long and damaging commitment.

I’m in my 60s and have never had an affair and have no intention of having one. However, people who have a fling shouldn’t automatically be condemned as “cheats”. Paul, via email