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SHOULD WE DITCH OUR PARTNERS?

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Dear Coleen

I’ve fallen for someone at work and we have a strong connection. We’re both married, but we’ve spoken about leaving our partners for each other. So far, so good.

However, we both have children and are worried about how they’ll react. We’re not worried about our partners – they can probably handle it, but we’d split properly as it’s not right to have an affair.

To a certain extent we’re in a vicious circle as we’re waiting for each other to leave to show how serious we are. What do you think?

Coleen says

My first thought is that you sound pretty flippant. You’re not concerned for your partners because they “can probably handle it”. How do you know? How would you handle it if the boot were on the other foot?

My advice is to calm down, stop getting carried away by the romance of this “connection” and try to think about what it’ll actually mean in reality if you both leave your spouses.

Think hard about the long-lasting impact on your families. Do you even know what you’d be leaving them for?

You could both walk away from your marriages and realise very quickly that you’re not compatible at all and there’s nothing between you beyond a flirtation.

You will have caused a lot of heartache for nothing more than a fling.

You’re right – you shouldn’t have an affair.

But I wouldn’t base your decision to leave your partner on this office romance.

Do it because you’re 100% certain you can’t save your marriage and you’re not in love with your partner any more.

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