TEMPTED BY FLING WITH MATE’S MAN

Dear Coleen

I split up with my fiance a few months ago and I’ve been single ever since.

I thought our friends would side with my ex as I did the dumping and he was heartbroken, but they’ve been brilliant and really rallied round both of us.

My problem is that a group of my friends are going on holiday in August and have invited me, but I’ll be the only single person there in a villa with couples.

I’m worried about feeling like the odd one out, but there’s something else too – I really fancy one of my friend’s husbands and I’m not sure I can handle the situation, especially as I’m sure he likes me too.

What should I do?

Coleen says

Don’t go. My excuse would be either, “Look, it’ll just make me miserable because I’m the only one not in a couple”, or, “Thanks, but I can’t afford it this year”. If you have strong feelings for a friend’s husband and put yourself in a villa with him when everyone’s in holiday mode and the cocktails are flowing, you know how things could end up.

So stop fantasising about it – he’s out of bounds.

And, yes, maybe he’s flirting back because he’s picking up on the signals you’re giving and it’s a nice ego massage, but that might be all that it is.

You don’t want to be the person who splits up a friend’s marriage. I understand you probably feel lonely and vulnerable coming out of a relationship, even if you did do the dumping, but there are plenty of other men out there for you.