MARRIED BUT I’M THINKING ABOUT MY EX

Dear Coleen

I’m a married woman, but lately I can’t stop thinking about my ex-boyfriend. I hadn’t seen him for 14 years until recently when we bumped into each other and I think that’s what has stirred up these feelings in me.

After that meeting, I tried to call him, but he won’t answer and has also blocked me on WhatsApp, which has left me feeling let down and confused.

Any idea what I should do?

Coleen says

Why are you still trying to get in touch with this man when you’re married and it’s obvious that he doesn’t want to strike up any kind of relationship with you?

If your relationship is so fragile that a guy from 14 years ago can make this much of an impact, then address your marriage as a priority. Think about why you’re feeling unfulfilled and if you want to work at it. Cheating on your husband is not going to sort out your marriage issues, it’ll only make things more confusing and a lot messier.

Look, this ex-boyfriend has done the right thing. If he’d written to me, asking what to do, I would have said not to get involved because you’re married and starting an affair risks hurting other people.