A warn­ing to women: Pro­tec­tion or­ders can make your stalker a KILLER


Daily Star Sunday - - FRONT PAGE - ■ by FELICITY CROSS felicity.cross@dai­lystar.co.uk

A RE­STRAIN­ING or­der can turn a stalker into a killer, se­cu­rity ex­perts warn.

For some pur­suers the “ex­treme na­ture of de­sire” plus the “in­tol­er­a­ble” pub­lic re­jec­tion in the form of a court or­der, is the trig­ger for a deadly at­tack, they say.

Last week it was re­vealed that po­lice brushed off ter­ri­fied Alice Rug­gles’ re­ports about her stalker ex, who then went on to mur­der her.

Se­cu­rity ex­pert Gavin de Becker be­lieves in some cases the re­strain­ing or­der it­self turns the stalker into a killer.

Mr De Becker, who worked with the pros­e­cu­tion on the stalk­ing as­pects of the OJ Simp­son trial, claims: “Many homi­cides have oc­curred at the court­house where the women were seek­ing pro­tec­tion or­ders, or just prior to the hear­ings.

“Why? Be­cause the mur­der­ers were al­ler­gic to re­jec­tion.

“They found it hard enough in pri­vate, but in­tol­er­a­ble in pub­lic.

“For men like this, re­jec­tion is a threat to the iden­tity, the per­sona, to the en­tire self, and in this sense their crimes could be called mur­der in de­fence of the self.

“Po­lice are the en­force­ment branch of our so­ci­ety, and when peo­ple mis­be­have, it is po­lice we ex­pect to make them stop. “That’s usu­ally fine, ex­cept in cases in which po­lice con­tact ac­tu­ally en­cour­ages the be­hav­iour it is meant to de­ter.” Mum Ali­son Mor­ri­son was stabbed 40 times by her “bad neigh­bour” Trevor Gib­bon the day af­ter he was is­sued a re­strain­ing or­der.

Mr De Becker quoted the ne­go­ti­a­tion and con­flict ex­pert Pro­fes­sor Mary Rowe who said a warn­ing sign was the “ex­treme na­ture of a de­sire”. Se­cu­rity spe­cial­ist Mr De Becker, who works with the US gov­ern­ment and fa­mous fig­ures like Oprah Win­frey, says in some re­spects, he would en­cour­age women to seek an ar­rest for as­sault or break­ing and en­ter­ing in­stead of a pro­tec­tion or­der.

In his book, The Gift Of Fear, he says: “Charges for break­ing the law in­volve the sys­tem ver­sus the law­breaker, re­strain­ing or­ders in­volve an abuser ver­sus his wife. “Many bat­ter­ers find in­tol­er­a­ble the idea of be­ing un­der the con­trol of their vic­tim.” Women’s Aid runs a free Na­tional Do­mes­tic Vi­o­lence helpline on 0808 2000 247. DAILY STAR SUN­DAY SAYS – PAGE 6

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