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MY part­ner’s daugh­ter never stops ask­ing for hand­outs.

She’s an adult with a hus­band and chil­dren, but has no shame when it comes to beg­ging.

She works part-time but can’t seem to man­age her in­come so, four days be­fore pay­day we’re asked for any­thing be­tween £100 and

£400 – and I’m sick of it. I know that my part­ner has paid off sev­eral big bills re­cently too. What re­ally an­noys me is that when she gets a whis­per that we’re plan­ning to book a hol­i­day cot­tage or go to a restau­rant, she rings and asks if her gang can come.

Con­se­quently, an Ital­ian meal goes from cost­ing us

£40 for two to £200 for six be­cause they all have three cour­ses and drink wine.

Re­cently she’s asked if we’d con­sider un­der­writ­ing her mort­gage be­cause they’d like a big­ger place.

This is the fi­nal straw as far as I’m con­cerned, yet I can’t trust my part­ner who is as soft as but­ter.

JANE SAYS: This con­stant “chip­ping away” is clearly get­ting you down.

You don’t want to come across as mean, but feel like you’re un­der siege from your adult step­daugh­ter.

Ba­si­cally, you never know when she’s go­ing to strike next as she has no shame.

Why doesn’t your part­ner sit down with her and have a chat? If the woman is wast­ing cash on un­nec­es­sary items, then she needs to be told that food, the mort­gage and util­ity bills are the pri­or­i­ties.

She needs to be told that you don’t run a char­ity and that she’s got to start look­ing af­ter her­self.

As for un­der­writ­ing her mort­gage; your part­ner has to un­der­stand that that would be a re­la­tion­ship breaker for you and is com­pletely non-ne­go­tiable.

You and he have to think about your own fi­nan­cial fu­ture, too.

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