KELLY CAMPBELL IS RAISING HER AUTISTIC DAUGHTER IN A SMALL MINING COMMUNITY IN SCOTLAND
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As mum and mummy to our daughter, Reeva, we are constantly confronted by other people’s assumptions. One of the biggest is that one or both of us are heterosexual, or that I became pregnant after being with a man, rather than as part of a lesbian couple.
We also face assumptions from medical professionals who ask “who is mum?” when we are both mum. It can be difficult, but we are always open and upfront with people and rather than getting angry, try to help them understand our family unit.
We live in a small mining community in Scotland, and the reactions we get from others are generally posi- tive. Some are confused or intrigued, but generally speaking, people in the village are very accepting of us and treat us the same way they would treat any other couple. We have had a tougher time with my partner Ali’s family, as some members are not truly accepting due to religious and personal beliefs.
One of the biggest challenges for us as a family was when Reeva was diagnosed with an Autism Spectrum Condition. She didn’t start talking until she was three years old, using signs and symbols rather than verbal communication.
Every day is different and brings its own set of challenges. It’s been a learning curve, and we are committed to understanding more about the condition in order to support Reeva as much as we can.
Another challenge has been trying to grow our family. Ali has had six attempts at assisted conception and one attempt at IVF, but unfortunately none of these have been successful and so we’ve decided to look into fostering or adoption so that Reeva can have a brother or a sister. We’d really like her to have siblings.
Despite the hurdles we’ve faced, there is nothing we would change about our loving, fun, supportive and caring family. We’re there for each other, no matter what.
“We are looking into fostering or adoption – we’d really like Reeva to have a sibling”