LISTEN TO YOUR FRIEND BILLY ZANE
He’s a cool guy. He’s trying to help you
I recently joined a popular dating app and met a girl whose company I enjoy. But we’d only been on a couple of dates, and I wanted to keep my options open, so set up a date with another match. But when I told the first girl this, she went ballistic. I didn’t think we were exclusive, just having fun. But she’s saying she won’t see me anymore. Am I in the wrong here? Yours, KW
Quite simply, KW, you sound like a man, and she a woman. I commend your honesty, but must correct your timing. establish the terms of engagement before your ‘dates’, to avoid any misunderstanding at the gate, and use it as an organising principle while choosing your partners. Now to elaborate upon my first comment: this will not ensure missile defence from a ballistic missile, I’m afraid.
Love this column. Didn’t think I’d write into it, though! But something’s come up. A few months ago, I moved into a spare room. My landlady is a lovely woman, about 20 years older than me. Not my type at all. But lately I’ve found myself fancying the pants off her. Oh, slight spanner in the works: her son is my best mate. What do you reckon? Cheers, ej
Stifler’s Mom? Dude! Make the move. If she accepts, then ask her how or if she wants to inform her son. The level of intensity around the relationship will also inform the decisions to follow. your bigger issue is lodging. Prepare for back-up accommodation as this will inevitably lead to you needing your own place in a pinch. I doubt crashing on your mate’s couch is an option.
I’m a budding filmmaker, trying to make my first short with a guy who’s been my best friend since school. However, we had a blazing row about creative control and now we’re not speaking. I’m the director, my friend is the writer (and lead actor), and I think I should have final say. But he’s not budging, and is threatening to sabotage the film with a deliberately bad performance. What should I do? Yours, ad
Deliberately bad? really? That’s his sweet revenge? fact-check that and come back to me. I think you are projecting a lot. you signed off on the script, right? you are happy with it, I assume? It’s a short film you are bootstrapping with your mate. Neither of you should have creative control. Collaborate and compromise. Try to have fun together. remember, it’s film. It’s too important to take seriously.
This may seem daft, but should I get a 4K TV? I wouldn’t ask, but I’m the guy who always backs the wrong horse. Laserdiscs? I got ’em. And I still have my HD DVD player. So what do you think? Cheers, bm
More and more content is being shot in 4K, purely because broadcasters must fill the pipe they spent a buttload on to accommodate it. However, I’m not a fan of watching movies in HD on an HD TV, let alone in 4K, simply because it’s ugly to my eye. It’s too sharp. Too real. I like grain and diffusion, personally. That said, sports rock in 4K! but I say save your cash and wait at least until the 4K TVS get cheaper, and the content for it gets even more readily available. Don’t get rid of your old TV. you will savour its unique low-fi quality like a delicacy, as they get phased out and as hard to find as bad weed these days.