HOW TO ESCAPE
PSyChoTheraPIST JudITh LaSk offerS ToP TIPS for Women Who feeL fInanCIaLLy TraPPed In a marrIage…
See a solicitor and financial advisor for advice, even if (or especially if) the situation seems hopeless.
Write a list of the positives and negatives associated with staying or leaving – this sometimes puts things into a different perspective.
Talk to your partner and come to a decision about what sort of relationship or separation you can have.
Consider counselling or therapy,
which can be a useful forum to work out issues or plan a separation.
Ask yourself what’s really stopping you. Sometimes, it’s easier to focus on the financial side than to examine other things that might be holding you back – disappointing your parents, shame at having a failed relationship, lack of confidence in managing money or in parenting, fear of being on your own or making big changes to your life.
Speak to your family and friends. It’s important to talk things through with people who know you, know what you need and what makes you happy. They may even be part of a solution in the shorter term – you might move in with one of them, for example.
Don’t ever give up. It’s always far better to have some sort of plan in mind than it is to live in a permanent no-man’s land of dissatisfaction and worry.