WHAT I’VE LEARNT
We introduced Victoria Milligan to Good Housekeeping writer Ella Dove, 26, who lost her leg last year after she fell badly while running. Here’s what Victoria told her...
LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF.
There’s no right or wrong time to think about love again, but you need to be in a good place mentally. If you don’t love yourself first, how can you expect anyone else to?
DON’T POUR YOUR HEART OUT STRAIGHT AWAY.
A first date is meant to be fun, so enjoy the other person’s company without feeling like you have to explain your life story immediately. I don’t ever mention that I’m an amputee until at least the second date.
TRY NOT TO FEAR REJECTION.
As the saying goes, you may have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. There are a lot of shallow, insecure men out there, but there are also a lot of kind ones. Don’t worry if things don’t work out – no date is a waste of time, and you’ll always learn something for the next one.
REMEMBER, YOU ARE STILL YOU.
Your traumatic experience doesn’t define who you are or what you’ve got to offer the world. What happened to us is awful and tragic, but it doesn’t have to stop us living full and fulfilling lives, and it shouldn’t stop us falling in love.