DISCOVER YOUR OWN CORE VALUES
1 Visit Dr Joe Oliver’s website contextualconsulting.co.uk/values, 2 and print out the list of value cards. Cut out the cards and order them into three columns – ‘very important’, ‘important’ and ‘not important’. As you read the descriptions, consider the way you try to live your life. Which values do you hold closest? Sometimes, identifying what’s not so important will help you to realise what is. Remember that you need to be completely honest with yourself. 3 From the ‘most important’ column, pick out the six cards that hold the most significance for you. These are not in any order – all six are equally important. By whittling it down to just six, you’re searching within yourself for the aspects and principles that resonate most. 4 These six are your core values. Once you’ve completed the exercise, keep your values in mind. This way, when you come across challenging situations or people who are difficult to connect with, you’ll be able to notice when and how the values conflict. You can then harness them to improve your resilience and gain a better 5 understanding of yourself and others. Repeat the exercise every few months to see if your values shift. Learning how to understand what you feel inside helps you recognise when you take steps towards your values – and when you need to work a bit harder to fulfil them. ◆ Activate Your Life by Joe Oliver, Jon Hill and Eric Morris (Little, Brown) is out now.