DEGREES OF SEPARATION
There are steps you can take to improve your night-time relationship without actually moving out, says Neil Stanley, author of How To Sleep Well*
TALK TO EACH OTHER
Instead of moaning that your partner has ruined your night’s sleep, try having a pragmatic conversation to find solutions. For instance, if your partner likes to stay up late, suggest that they clean their teeth downstairs to avoid bumbling around noisily in the bedroom when you’re asleep.
Banish duvet fights for good by having two single duvets on your double bed. Not only will this lessen disturbance but it will also help regulate your temperature. If you get hot during the night but your partner gets cold, two duvets of differing thickness will ensure you’re both comfortable and happy.
MANAGE THAT SNORING
Try to work out what the cause is – some people snore on their backs, while others only snore if they’ve been drinking. If the latter, an agreement that you’ll sleep separately if one of you has had a heavy night will help prevent disturbance. There
are many anti-snoring products available over the counter in chemists. Trial them to see what helps, however don’t expect miracles – different things work for different people.
BANISH BLUE LIGHT
Blue light from a phone or tablet screen suppresses the release of melatonin, the hormone that regulates sleep, so it’s best to avoid it before bed, if possible. If your partner likes to binge-watch TV late into the night, suggest they do so downstairs – practical solutions like this will keep you both happy in the long-run.
DON’T BE SCARED TO SLEEP ALONE!
There is no link between sleep and the strength of your relationship. Sleeping in the same bed as your partner is a modern concept – humans are the only animals on earth who choose to do so purely for intimacy. It’s better to sleep separately than to put up with someone in your bed and feel increasingly angry – if you’re harbouring such resentment, it’s likely you won’t be having sex anyway!