Shaming, generally, is a problem. But so is heaping fake praise on people who’re filtered beyond belief.
Everyone’s got an opinion on everyone else these days, and it’s exhausting. Worse still, they think that you need to hear their opinion too. I get that, but everyone’s got an ass as well – and I don’t need to be subjected to that either. Not that I have a choice, given how social media is going. “Update your timeline preferences!” *bursts into a loud rendition of Look at Me by Geri Halliwell*
social media and ‘dating apps’, alongside those oh-so-important opinions lurks that old monster of body shaming, rearing its ugly head once more.
I’m allowed to call it ugly, right? Have we today? Sub-editors, can we check that?
Here’s my take, seeing as we’re sharing opinions, unwanted or otherwise. Post what you like that pertains to yourself. I have no problem with people wanting to post nudes, regardless of being ‘older’, their gender, body size, favourite Spice Girl, or whatever. If you don’t like something, move something less boring. I had no problem – and still don’t – with any of the Kardashians posting nude pictures. And yes, I found it funny when Bette Midler made a joke about it. But I didn’t interpret that as a criticism of said wish to pose nude online, and certainly not of her actual naked body. Good on her. Good on them both!
Shaming, generally, is a problem. But so is heaping fake praise on people who’re people can make people feel a need to look a certain way, but really – please – you just don’t need to. It’s nice to appreciate something, but you don’t need to be
I’ve had people judge me by my appearance and/or age online and deem me not worth talking to. Sure, it knocked me matter what someone else thinks. And realising that was more validating than anything I was looking at online. Being able to let it go was like a breath of fresh air. The stories from readers in this issue, and their experiences of shaming, are really upsetting. I have a boyfriend who likes believing that – coming down to the fact that he’s thin and I’m not – because that’s what we’re being ‘conditioned’ to think.
There’s no right and wrong with bodies. between what sells a product and what doesn’t, and that’s a whole other can of worms, so please don’t @ me about the types of people that feature in ads and mags. Unless, of course, you want to take part in our GT Boyfriend shoots, which have always been open to everyone. C’mon guys,
I’m reminded of two quotes by people I’ve admired my whole life.
One, from the genius mind of Jennifer Saunders, giving dialogue to the nurse in Ab cares if you live or die!”
And the much more frequently quoted none of my business.”
We care too much because of other people’s opinions, so I’m turning my very much.