Sham­ing, gen­er­ally, is a prob­lem. But so is heap­ing fake praise on peo­ple who’re fil­tered be­yond be­lief.

GT (UK) - - THE EDITOR - DAR­REN SCOTT @dar­ren_s­cott

Every­one’s got an opin­ion on every­one else these days, and it’s ex­haust­ing. Worse still, they think that you need to hear their opin­ion too. I get that, but every­one’s got an ass as well – and I don’t need to be sub­jected to that ei­ther. Not that I have a choice, given how so­cial media is go­ing. “Up­date your time­line pref­er­ences!” *bursts into a loud ren­di­tion of Look at Me by Geri Hal­li­well*

so­cial media and ‘dat­ing apps’, along­side those oh-so-im­por­tant opin­ions lurks that old mon­ster of body sham­ing, rear­ing its ugly head once more.

I’m al­lowed to call it ugly, right? Have we to­day? Sub-edi­tors, can we check that?

Here’s my take, see­ing as we’re shar­ing opin­ions, un­wanted or oth­er­wise. Post what you like that per­tains to your­self. I have no prob­lem with peo­ple want­ing to post nudes, re­gard­less of be­ing ‘older’, their gen­der, body size, favourite Spice Girl, or what­ever. If you don’t like some­thing, move some­thing less bor­ing. I had no prob­lem – and still don’t – with any of the Kar­dashi­ans post­ing nude pic­tures. And yes, I found it funny when Bette Mi­dler made a joke about it. But I didn’t in­ter­pret that as a crit­i­cism of said wish to pose nude on­line, and cer­tainly not of her ac­tual naked body. Good on her. Good on them both!

Sham­ing, gen­er­ally, is a prob­lem. But so is heap­ing fake praise on peo­ple who’re peo­ple can make peo­ple feel a need to look a cer­tain way, but re­ally – please – you just don’t need to. It’s nice to ap­pre­ci­ate some­thing, but you don’t need to be

I’ve had peo­ple judge me by my ap­pear­ance and/or age on­line and deem me not worth talk­ing to. Sure, it knocked me mat­ter what some­one else thinks. And re­al­is­ing that was more val­i­dat­ing than any­thing I was look­ing at on­line. Be­ing able to let it go was like a breath of fresh air. The sto­ries from read­ers in this is­sue, and their ex­pe­ri­ences of sham­ing, are re­ally up­set­ting. I have a boyfriend who likes be­liev­ing that – com­ing down to the fact that he’s thin and I’m not – be­cause that’s what we’re be­ing ‘con­di­tioned’ to think.

There’s no right and wrong with bod­ies. be­tween what sells a prod­uct and what doesn’t, and that’s a whole other can of worms, so please don’t @ me about the types of peo­ple that fea­ture in ads and mags. Un­less, of course, you want to take part in our GT Boyfriend shoots, which have al­ways been open to every­one. C’mon guys,

I’m re­minded of two quotes by peo­ple I’ve ad­mired my whole life.

One, from the ge­nius mind of Jen­nifer Saun­ders, giv­ing di­a­logue to the nurse in Ab cares if you live or die!”

And the much more fre­quently quoted none of my busi­ness.”

We care too much be­cause of other peo­ple’s opin­ions, so I’m turn­ing my very much.

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