Mod­ern Fam­ily

Telling your story can be in­tim­i­dat­ing, but it might just change some­one else’s life.


Eight years ago, I de­cided to tell the story of how my husband and I adopted our son Jack­son. Grow­ing up, I never saw fam­i­lies like mine. I wanted to make oth­ers know hap­pily ever af­ter is pos­si­ble, re­gard­less of who they love. When I be­gan, I won­dered just how hard could it be? I’ve al­ways had a good mem­ory and have a piece of pa­per from New York Univer­sity that says I’m a trained writer. So why the heck not?

Find­ing a ti­tle like PopDaddy was easy enough. My husband Ken is papa and I’m daddy, and our son Jack­son would of­ten mix up our names. Even­tu­ally he de­cided to com­bine the two to­gether.

Ken — an ac­tivist — started pes­ter­ing me about PopDaddy as he felt our story would re­move some of the fear peo­ple had about gay men par­ent­ing. If they could see how or­di­nary we were, how sim­i­lar our lives were to their own, then per­haps their hearts would open and they would see us as al­lies in­stead of en­e­mies? For me, sto­ry­telling is a pow­er­ful way to over­come dif­fer­ences. It’s im­por­tant for LGBT+ peo­ple to tell our sto­ries. It’s easy to hate in the ab­stract, but help­ing oth­ers see us as beau­ti­ful hu­mans is just as im­por­tant; just like them.

The book was pub­lished in March and peo­ple all over the world have reached out to thank me for telling our story.

My favourite feed­back went some­thing like, ‘I was a lit­tle skep­ti­cal to read a book about two gay men adopt­ing a baby. Be­ing a 55-year-old Chris­tian woman, I won­dered if the book would be a tad too much for me. But I must say, I’m ex­tremely grate­ful I read this book!’

From skep­ti­cal to grate­ful; that’s the power of sto­ry­telling and love.

PopDaddy is avail­able from £8.98 via ama­, @kman­ford, @jef­frey­roach, @pop­dad­dy­press,

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