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IVING star Tom Da­ley had two long-cher­ished dreams: Be­com­ing a fa­ther and win­ning Olympic gold.

In June, Tom, 24, and his hus­band, Hol­ly­wood screen­writer Dustin Lance Black, 44, ful­filled the first when their son Robert Ray Black-Da­ley was born.

Tom, a dou­ble Olympic bronze medal­list who has won World, Com­mon­wealth and Euro­pean div­ing golds, says the baby will al­ways be his num­ber one pri­or­ity now, but he’s still train­ing hard to ful­fil his other am­bi­tion.

Here the star, who mar­ried in 2017, talks can­didly about fa­ther­hood, mar­riage, whether he’ll have more chil­dren, and speak­ing out about gay rights. what peo­ple thought about him – he’d wave the big­gest Union Jack flag, sing the na­tional an­them so loudly and cheer for me, no mat­ter what any­one thought. Some­times it used to em­bar­rass me but now I re­alise he lived the way he wanted to, didn’t care what any­one else thought be­cause he re­alised life was too short to worry. It’s a life les­son I want to pass on to our child. sec­ond as a pri­or­ity, of course, but I think hav­ing our son will make me per­form even bet­ter.

“I’ve still got a driv­ing am­bi­tion to win an Olympic gold. The thought of that keeps me work­ing each day be­cause it’s the one (gold) medal that eludes me. You spoke out about gay rights at the Com­mon­wealth Games this year af­ter win­ning gold – why was that im­por­tant to you? I RE­ALISED when I went to the Games how lucky I was to be mar­ried to some­one I love with­out any worry about ram­i­fi­ca­tions and to be able to rep­re­sent my coun­try in a sport I love and not have to worry about be­ing thrown into jail.

At that time, there were 37 (Com­mon­wealth) coun­tries which crim­i­nalised LGBT peo­ple. I just wanted to shine a light on that. I feel ev­ery per­son has the right to feel love for some­one what­ever their sex, re­li­gion, eth­nic­ity or back­ground. Love tran­scends all those things.

“I feel lighter and freer now I’ve come out. When you try and hide who you re­ally are and sup­press emo­tions, it’s a big bur­den and a weight on your shoul­ders.

There’s some­thing so lib­er­at­ing about be­ing able to be truly THERE’S not a lot that can sur­prise me nowa­days in terms of peo­ple on so­cial me­dia who say what­ever they want from be­hind a com­puter. They wouldn’t nec­es­sar­ily say it to your face. When we saw the hor­ri­ble mes­sages, I de­tached my­self from it and avoided read­ing most of it. BE­ING present in the mo­ment is cru­cial to well­be­ing. I’ve had pe­ri­ods in my life where I’ve been con­sumed with self-doubt and mind­ful­ness has re­ally helped me to over­come them.

Af­ter the 2016 Olympics when I didn’t qual­ify for the men’s 10 me­tre fi­nal, it felt like ev­ery­thing I’d worked to­wards had been shat­tered to pieces. As time’s moved on, I’ve taken away the pos­i­tives from that ex­pe­ri­ence and moved on.

I’ve learned to de­tach my­self from neg­a­tive talk in my head, and ev­ery day I practise 10 min­utes of med­i­ta­tion us­ing an app.

I do yoga, and have a diet that’s en­ergy-giv­ing and boosts my im­mune sys­tem.

Through my new book, Tom’s Daily Goals, I want to show peo­ple you don’t have to be an ath­lete to im­prove your life, health and well­be­ing. My book’s aimed at or­di­nary, nor­mal peo­ple, like my mum, who want to get fit­ter.

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