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IVING star Tom Daley had two long-cherished dreams: Becoming a father and winning Olympic gold.
In June, Tom, 24, and his husband, Hollywood screenwriter Dustin Lance Black, 44, fulfilled the first when their son Robert Ray Black-Daley was born.
Tom, a double Olympic bronze medallist who has won World, Commonwealth and European diving golds, says the baby will always be his number one priority now, but he’s still training hard to fulfil his other ambition.
Here the star, who married in 2017, talks candidly about fatherhood, marriage, whether he’ll have more children, and speaking out about gay rights. what people thought about him – he’d wave the biggest Union Jack flag, sing the national anthem so loudly and cheer for me, no matter what anyone thought. Sometimes it used to embarrass me but now I realise he lived the way he wanted to, didn’t care what anyone else thought because he realised life was too short to worry. It’s a life lesson I want to pass on to our child. second as a priority, of course, but I think having our son will make me perform even better.
“I’ve still got a driving ambition to win an Olympic gold. The thought of that keeps me working each day because it’s the one (gold) medal that eludes me. You spoke out about gay rights at the Commonwealth Games this year after winning gold – why was that important to you? I REALISED when I went to the Games how lucky I was to be married to someone I love without any worry about ramifications and to be able to represent my country in a sport I love and not have to worry about being thrown into jail.
At that time, there were 37 (Commonwealth) countries which criminalised LGBT people. I just wanted to shine a light on that. I feel every person has the right to feel love for someone whatever their sex, religion, ethnicity or background. Love transcends all those things.
“I feel lighter and freer now I’ve come out. When you try and hide who you really are and suppress emotions, it’s a big burden and a weight on your shoulders.
There’s something so liberating about being able to be truly THERE’S not a lot that can surprise me nowadays in terms of people on social media who say whatever they want from behind a computer. They wouldn’t necessarily say it to your face. When we saw the horrible messages, I detached myself from it and avoided reading most of it. BEING present in the moment is crucial to wellbeing. I’ve had periods in my life where I’ve been consumed with self-doubt and mindfulness has really helped me to overcome them.
After the 2016 Olympics when I didn’t qualify for the men’s 10 metre final, it felt like everything I’d worked towards had been shattered to pieces. As time’s moved on, I’ve taken away the positives from that experience and moved on.
I’ve learned to detach myself from negative talk in my head, and every day I practise 10 minutes of meditation using an app.
I do yoga, and have a diet that’s energy-giving and boosts my immune system.
Through my new book, Tom’s Daily Goals, I want to show people you don’t have to be an athlete to improve your life, health and wellbeing. My book’s aimed at ordinary, normal people, like my mum, who want to get fitter.